Mom and Me

Mom and me. Kay Owen and Audrey Owen September 2007When I began this Web site in July 2006, I knew that I would go from a life alone to a shared life -- a life of Mom and me.

I am a true spinster, never married, and without children.

As single women did years ago, I have taken the responsibility of helping my mom where I can as she moves to whatever we call what follows middle age.

This isn't the first time we've lived together as adults. When my father died suddenly, I was the child who was free to move in with Mom to help her with the practical details of her new life. Then I bought my own house and moved out. Next, Mom moved in with me. We've moved back and forth and Mom has spent time with my siblings while I've lived alone.

What's different this time is that Mom is able to do less than before, which means that I have to do more.

I was ready for some of the changes and not at all prepared for others. Given that we are only two weeks into this new phase, I think it's safe to say that I'm in for a few more surprises.

Last year I was afraid that I would have to retire early. Of course a sudden change in circumstances still might make that necessary, but as I write this page, I am preparing to head back to the classroom and the job I love as a teacher. I've been asked to pilot new software and hardware, and with my colleagues, I'm chasing the illusive silver bullet that will make all our students good writers. I'm a long way from wanting to quit this wonderful job.

On the other hand, I am preparing for a sudden loss of income by building my home business. I'm happy to say that given the head-start I had on setting up this business, I believe that I will manage financially even if I must resign my job before I receive my full pension.

I will be keeping you up to date with our circumstances on this very personal section of this Web site. We'll share what works for us and what doesn't. Mom is pleased that her circumstances will help other people in similar situations. So am I.

We are not alone in our situation here. If you are retired or are about to retire and have a story or advice to share about living with elderly parents, or about not living with elderly parents, you can submit your story through the contact form on this site.

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